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Navigating Grief with Strength:
How Grief Counselling Can Guide Your Healing Journey

Grief is an emotional experience that is complex encompassing a whirlwind of thoughts and emotions triggered by a loss. It is acknowledged that grief is a natural process of healing that takes place for us to go through the struggles of letting go and accepting of the loss. Losses comes in many forms, from the loss of jobs, relationships, failures, material assets, and death.

Everyone is likely to experience grief and loss during their lifetime. However, the experience that individuals go through may vary depending on one’s personal expectations and beliefs about grief.

Signs You May Need Counselling For Grief and Loss

Grief affects everyone differently, and sometimes, it can be overwhelming. Here are some signs that counselling may help you cope:

Overwhelming Sadness

Constant feelings of sorrow that make it difficult to enjoy life or engage in daily activities.

Living In A Daze

Feeling disconnected from reality, as though you’re going through the motions without truly living.

Feelings Of Guilt

Guilt over things you did or didn’t do, leaving you with a sense of regret that weighs heavily on your heart.

Exhaustion, Anxiety, And Lack Of Concentration

Struggling to focus, feeling anxious, or being constantly tired despite getting enough rest.

Intense Anger

Experiencing strong anger towards the person you lost or others, which may feel confusing or difficult to manage.

Losing Meaning In Life

A sense of hopelessness or questioning the purpose of life after your loss.

Low Self-Esteem

Feeling unworthy or doubting your abilities, which may be linked to the emotional toll of grief.

Poor Sleep

Trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or waking up too early, often accompanied by restlessness.

Change In Appetite

Either losing your appetite completely or turning to food for comfort, disrupting your usual eating habits.

The Stages of Grief

Originally developed by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, these five stages of grief offer insight into the common emotional responses to grief. It’s important to remember that grief isn’t experienced in a set order—everyone processes it differently, and you may move back and forth between these stages.

Here are the five stages of grief:

Denial

The first reaction to loss often involves shock or disbelief. You may find it hard to accept the reality of what has happened. Thoughts like “This can’t be true” or “There must be some mistake” are common in this stage as your mind tries to protect you from the initial wave of pain.

Anger

As the reality of the loss starts to sink in, feelings of anger and frustration may surface. You may direct this anger at the situation, at others, or even at the person you lost. It’s common to feel as though the loss is unfair, and you might find yourself thinking, “Why did this have to happen?”

Bargaining

During this stage, you may find yourself wishing to reverse or undo the loss, often by making promises or “deals” with a higher power. Feelings of guilt or regret may emerge as you think about “what if” scenarios. This is where thoughts like, “If only I had done things differently” often arises.

Depression

Once the reality of the loss settles in, deep sadness may follow. You may feel overwhelmed by feelings of despair or hopelessness, struggling to find the motivation to engage with life. This stage can be particularly difficult as the absence of your loved one or what you’ve lost feels all too real, and everyday activities seem too heavy to bear.

Acceptance

In this final stage, you come to terms with the reality of the loss. Acceptance doesn’t mean you’ve forgotten or moved past the grief—it means you’re learning to live with it. While you still feel the sadness, you begin to find a way forward, cherishing memories and gradually seeking new purpose and meaning in life. Thoughts such as, “I can honour their memory by living my life fully,” may bring comfort.

The five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—are not a linear process but rather a framework to understand the emotional responses to loss. People often move back and forth between stages, skip stages entirely, or experience multiple stages simultaneously. Grief is deeply personal and can be influenced by various factors, including the nature of the loss, individual coping mechanisms, and cultural context. It’s important to recognize that these stages are not a checklist to be completed but a way to validate the complexity of emotions that arise during the grieving process.

How Counselling Can Support You Through Grief

Counselling provides a compassionate space to help you navigate the complex emotions that come with loss. Here’s how it can assist you:

Express Emotions In A Healthy Way

Counselling creates a safe and supportive environment where you can openly express your feelings. Whether it’s tears, frustration, or anger, the counselling process helps you release these emotions in ways that promote healing. You’ll also learn to be gentle with yourself as you work through each stage of grief.

Rebuild Routines And Habits

Loss often disrupts daily life, leaving you feeling unmoored. Counselling can help you restore balance by guiding you towards creating new, healthy routines. From improving your sleep patterns to maintaining a balanced diet and staying active, these habits can provide structure and comfort as you move forward in your grief journey.

Rediscover Your Identity

Grief can leave you feeling like a part of yourself is missing. Through counselling, you’ll gain the tools to explore new interests, build connections with others, and redefine your sense of self. This journey allows you to embrace a new identity while still honouring the past, helping you to find closure and peace.

Overcome Guilt

Feelings of guilt often accompany grief, making it difficult to move on. In counselling, you’ll learn how to gently release these feelings by focusing on positive memories and being kinder to yourself. By gaining a broader perspective, you’ll be able to let go of guilt and begin the process of healing.

What Grief Counselling Can Do?

Grief counselling facilitates individuals in coping with their emotional, psychological challenges that may arise after experiencing a loss.

It provides a safe space to process your emotions and encourage healthy healing
Guides clients to adopt practical coping strategies to manage the emotional experience and to navigate daily life while grieving.
By understanding your journey with grief could help support and prepare individuals for the road ahead.
Grief may be complicated by other factors such as trauma and unresolved issues. Sessions could provide a safe space for clients to share their thoughts, feelings and concerns and to build new routines amongst a new normal.
Honouring the loss. The importance of honoring the memory could not be understated.

Grief is a natural response to loss, and seeking support is a sign of strength and courage. You don’t have to face this journey alone. Speaking to someone and allowing us to support you on your path of healing can help.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Counselling for Grief and Loss

What is grief?

Grief is a natural response to any significant loss in your life, not just the passing of a loved one. It can stem from the loss of a job, a relationship, or even major life changes. Grief encompasses a wide range of emotions such as sadness, anger, confusion, and sometimes even relief, depending on the circumstances of the loss.

What Are Some Healthy Ways To Cope With Grief?

Coping with grief can be different for everyone, but some healthy ways include giving yourself permission to feel, expressing your emotions through talking or journaling, and maintaining self-care habits like eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest. Reaching out for support from friends, family, or a professional can also help you process your emotions in a healthy way.

How Long Does Grief Last?

There is no set timeline for grief, as it is a deeply personal experience. For some, the intensity of grief may lessen over time, while others may find certain moments—like anniversaries or reminders—trigger waves of sadness even years later. It’s important to give yourself time and not rush the process, as healing takes its own unique path.

What Happens If You Don’t Allow Yourself To Grieve?

Suppressing grief can lead to emotional and physical stress, which may manifest in anxiety, depression, or even health issues. Avoiding the grieving process can also make it harder to move forward, as unresolved emotions may resurface later in life. Grief counselling offers a safe space to explore and process your feelings, allowing for healthier long-term emotional well-being.